There's a saying that
says that friends sing the song of your soul back to you when you forget.
That's stupid.
My friends give me
essays when I'm too tired to read. They
push me to think, to question, to get back up and fight when I'd really rather
just taste iron as the countdown ends.
If I'm argumentative, if I am stubborn, if I tend to growl in public –
this is why.
I'm depressed.
That's far too strong
a word, but it was the first that came to mind as I was washing dishes in a fugue
state one day. Not only was I carrying
out tasks on autopilot, I wasn't completing them to my usual standards, I was skipping out on church events because
they seemed like too much work, I was oversleeping, and food seemed like an
unnecessary luxury. I was okay during
the retreat with the rest of my team, but going back to work left me listless
and eager to be home. Home
home.
I'd stopped worrying about how much time I had left here and started eying the eleven months left as though I was already on the other side of them. I don't know why – relationships at work and within our team were getting stronger, I feel like I'd made a difference with some of my work, I was learning, I was still reading the Bible and praying. But it didn't feel real – it felt like an in-between place, like too many shades of grey had left me unable to see my hand in front of my face.
I'd stopped worrying about how much time I had left here and started eying the eleven months left as though I was already on the other side of them. I don't know why – relationships at work and within our team were getting stronger, I feel like I'd made a difference with some of my work, I was learning, I was still reading the Bible and praying. But it didn't feel real – it felt like an in-between place, like too many shades of grey had left me unable to see my hand in front of my face.
I'd given up.
Even the deaths of MJ
Sharp and Zaida Catalan didn't create ripples in my sea of no cares. They were more people who 'didn't understand
the reality of the situation.' And they
died for it. They were murdered trying
to find the truth and create peace in a land to which they had no connection because
people would rather have fear and death and pain rather than admit guilt, lose
money and power, and defy the stories their parents killed for. You can't help people who don't want to be
helped.
“It's a black spirit
within us,” said a friend, his round face shining with earnestness. “[I would speak out] if there were white
people among us – yes. But black people
eat each other alive.
“When you can fund
us,” he continued conversationally, “be flexible with your budget. We're not being paid anywhere near as much as
we were during the war.”
This is not my
fight! I wanted to
hiss. My fight is against corruption,
against murder, against war – not to get you more money. Why do I feel
like we're not on the same battlefield?
I couldn't fight
this. I was too tired. I couldn't even stop myself from gossiping
and backbiting, much less take on an endemic system of corruption in marriages,
families, churches, workplaces, and governments.
Another friend, who
didn't know what he was getting himself into, asked how work was going.
Terrible. A project is over. The funder is unhappy. The field staff think the office staff stole
money and didn't do their job. The
office staff think the field staff did the same. All the work done for the audit needed to be
redone - the first round had involved massaging the numbers to make sure they
fit the budget; God Almighty only knows what the second involved. The statistics were all wrong as of last June
– this was discovered in September, but they likely continued being wrong until
this March. I thought I'd made a
difference because people began parroting what I'd said when I'd walked away
from the assessment team. But I
hadn't. Nothing will change because no
one wants anything to change – all they want is a bigger piece of the pie.
So? You knew all that before. Nothing changed. You're still here to help.
How can I?! They look at me like I'm crazy – like I'm
just another muzungu
who couldn't possibly understand, like the end justifies the means. But it doesn't. The means is the whole journey. What is the point of gaining the whole world
and forfeiting your soul in the process?
I'm supposed to play my part here, take the money I'm being given, do my
job, and shut up. Sometimes I'm being
asked to lie. And everyone's doing
it. And I've done it too. And now I'm pretending that being a foreigner
and leaving in one year justifies my culpability.
And it does. In one year, you'll be back home and they'll
still be in the same corrupt jobs in the same corrupt country.
I get no pleasure
from that! I don't feel bad that they
think I'm crazy, I--
You feel bad that they
don't want to change. That they don't
see the harm they're doing to themselves in the long run.
Yes.
So talk. Be honest.
Tell them what's wrong and ask why it happened. It doesn't have to be confrontational, but
you shouldn't feel complicit. None of us
should.
I... But...
I believe in honesty. I do. But I can't talk to my boss! How can talking to one person make a differ--
It does. All you need to do is convince one person,
and it's a daily struggle; it doesn't just happen.
I knew. These were my words – from the harshness of
letting people make their own choices to the sweet hope that they would make
the right ones to the firm faith that God would protect them and others if they
repented from the wrong ones. I had read
them in the Bible, felt them in my heart, rolled them on my tongue, and
staccato-fired them at others. I knew
individuals were important; I knew honesty was important. How had I lost that?
The truth is that
darkness eats us alive when we stop fighting.
The truth is that friends remind us what we’re fighting for.
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