...It’s been a while.
You’ll never believe what happened.
My organization offered me a position after the ending of my placement,
even going so far to ask whether a certain salary would be acceptable. This nebulous offer (the second of its kind) felt
good but, as I sat on a moto for an hour to get to a health centre where we would
be carrying out a supervisory field mission, I had time to reflect on it.
As that happened to be a day on which being female and taking a long
moto ride just did not go well together, I decided I would rather set my head
on fire.
Thankfully, we arrived at our destination just before the rain hit
(otherwise I would have quit my voluntary position, as well as my thoroughly
involuntary one on the back of a moto, and crawled home), and started a
discussion with the head nurse and his nutritionist (who probably knew enough
about psychology between them to cover a small biscuit) about the focus groups
we were to be leading the next day.
‘Focus group’ is actually a misnomer because it is associated with free
money offered for research of some sort.
However, since everything here is associated with free money, it really
doesn’t make a big difference. We were
really organising self-help groups to encourage resilience and partnerships
based on shared experiences.
Only they would much rather have helped themselves to free money to feed
their families.
First, we had a group of teen mothers who were supposed to arrive at
8am, actually arrived at 9am, and were to be kept waiting until 11am (when our
donors would arrive, so they could see what excellent work we were doing). I used my subtle powers of persuasion
(identified by my mother as ‘godawful whining’) until my colleague agreed to
start the group therapy session around 9:30.
Unbeknownst to me, he also had a superpower – a motormouth that he
planned to use until our donors arrived.
Hours later, caught between an overwhelming disgust of outhouses and visions
of the Japanese flag, I finally had to choose the greater of the two
evils. When I returned, I delicately
indicated (through what my friends call ‘epileptic facial spasms’) that I was
not happy with the current situation.
Reluctantly, my colleague’s steam engine of thought ground to a halt at
11:30, and we encouraged the women to go home.
Luckily for him, they were not about to leave the room without some pay
for a hard day’s work of listening to how life could be spectacular even with a
baby clinging to each breast like a hairless koala. Despite our calm refusals, they belligerently
held onto this hope as strongly as those sweet babes, through our donors’
evaluation, and right through some individual counselling sessions.
I watched a spreading puddle around a toddler, sound asleep at his
mother’s feet and oblivious to his baby sister jabbing him in the head with a
stick, and gave thanks to each part of the Trinity that I was not a teen mother
in Central Africa.
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
The day before, when we arrived in that health zone, we’d had plans to
stay at the local boarding school. After
walking a mile and gaining at least 5 kilos in the form of sticky mud on our
shoes, we arrived just in time to escape the second thundershower. In the middle of that storm, we learned that
the rooms were full for the night. I
contemplated asking for a manger (cramps, contractions – potatoes/potatoes, if
you ask me), but gave up, sat under my wilting scarf and soggy hair, surrounded
by whispering teenage boys who didn’t know they were one pick-up line away from
death, and waited for dawn while my colleague harped on about banyamulenge (Congolese Tutsis) beside
me. Finally, one nurse said we could
stay in a convent. We were taken to a
priest, who also said we could stay in a convent. The priest then took us to the home he shared
with other male priests, deacons, and chaplains, and invited me to join the
convent.
I have thought about this in the past, but my mom (and, more recently,
my boyfriend) assures me it is a bad idea.
That evening, over a rich meal and flowing beer, I reflected that maybe
there were secrets about convents that none of us knew...
...In order to discuss this in greater detail, and, uh, since I hadn’t
seen my boyfriend in a while (relationships warp all periods of time to be either
way too long or way too short – there is no in-between), I decided to meet him one
evening, one street away from home. [Totally
Unrelated Note: At the time, the city
was in a state of heightened security due to civil disobedience and rebel
activity in the south. In light of this,
our team had had an hour-long session to discuss security protocol that forbade
basically everything necessary to a relationship involving two private people
with full-time jobs, a focus on church involvement, and large, nosy families. Needless to say, I giggled a lot – due to how
irrelevant the session was to my life, you understand.]
...I regret nothing except lying to Carrottop, who thought I’d been
kidnapped, found me in a dark office (not doing anything I wouldn’t do with my mother
in the room, I swear), and hinted that This Was Not Okay (by shrieking it).
That I’m fine? That I’m not having sex? That I have no idea why the light switch is
not connected to the battery?
Lying and putting yourself in possible
danger, as it turned out, but let’s not
quibble.
Regardless, I felt like screaming the same thing, but for vastly
different reasons - the foremost being that I was escorted from the premises
and driven one street up to my house as though I’d been found in a jail cell
with a blood alcohol level that could fell a buffalo rather than fully clothed
in a locked office with a local across from a rocking wedding party. I was in such a snit that I had a break-up
speech planned for the next day - but then helped host a formal ‘Meet the
boyfriend you caught me sneaking around with’ dinner party with the family
instead. In the absence of God striking
me down with a lightning bolt, Carrottop was forced to write an Incident Report
that included Unmentionable Words that would end up in our Grandpa’s hallowed inbox,
despite the fact that there was no
incident and dinner had been a bribe to keep her big mouth shut.
As though this was not enough, our resident rat also made a guest
appearance. He had, in fact, been the
silent listener to our conversations, the skittering presence in our quiet
moments, the noisy chewer behind the fridge all along, though I thought I’d
been pretty dedicated about keeping our food out of reach. Privately, I’d hoped to live peaceably with Ratilla
the Hungry (or, alternatively, that he’d be electrocuted so I could sell him to
my colleague), but Butters seemed disturbed to find the fridge cord nearly
chewed through.
At least he had warned me in advance that he’d lined some rat traps with
peanut butter or there would have been another Incident Report to write.
That night, Ratilla woke me at 4am to profess his disappointment in our
actions (particularly in closing the garbage can), and that he would also be forced to write a report about this, but slipped away when I
shone my cellphone around the room and keened desperately.
Work the next morning came in the aftermath of this trauma.
“We must buy 3 flit shap!”
I squinted.
“$5 per flit shap - 3 flit shap!”
Lip whats?! Rat traps?!
Peanut butter!
In the end, however, I agreed that we would probably need 3 flip
charts.
It was a little bit more difficult to understand that locals referred to
aid as franca ya munyama, or devil’s money. It wasn’t seen as ‘real’ money. In fact, it had to be used quickly - it could
be wasted, given away, anything...
because it couldn’t serve any good. It
was to be obtained at any cost, but it couldn’t be put to good use – it didn’t
count, in essence.
...Do you think donors plan the sustainability of their projects with this
belief in mind?
I sat and listened to a coworker disparaging some practices of his own
countrymen – that they would litter because the country had no value, that they
would waste because the money had no value – and wondered how any of this could
possibly work...
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