I was cutting up some steamed
plantain the other day when I was surprised to see gunshots in the peel.
I squinted at the fruit in total bewilderment
for a few moments before realizing it was where I’d stabbed my fork in and not,
as immediately assumed, a stealthy Mai-Mai attack (hey, they apparently have supernatural powers and you just never know).
The fact that it resembled the marks on one of the unused emergency vehicles in our
front yard was purely incidental and reflected a subtle change in my perceptions
since living here.
Professionally, I go
through waves – I either don`t understand or am not told about deadlines, so by
the time I receive a report to edit, write, or translate, it was due yesterday
and I feel like a blithering idiot for not understanding what hit
me. But my colleagues are kind and
helpful and admire my three-word Swahili vocabulary; I’m confident of our
potential. I know it seems like I`m
hardly working, but I promise I am – it`s just that I experience most of my
non-confidential oscillations between hilarity and panic around work hours.
My daily walks in Bamako
would take me past at least one motorcycle accident every two or three days –
despite having a separate lane for them (onto which I would usually step
with nary a care in the world as it was roughly the width of a pavement in
the West and I never remembered the motos until one zoomed across my chest). Here, I was privileged to see one in
action on the way to work.
The driver drove too close
to the sandy gutter and flipped in – the pagne`d middle-aged woman
behind him also flopping over. Both were thankfully okay as he hadn`t been going very fast, but the public response was
speedy, if less than helpful.
The woman quickly got up herself,
but the driver was a little indisposed.
His brothers on the side of the road graciously lifted him by the
shoulders and the legs to try to pull him a little further into the gutter
(presumably so he wouldn`t be run over).
The only problem was that
he had fallen on his front. So they were
trying to lift him in a way that God had not intended his spine to bend while he yowled and twitched. If he`d had any spinal injuries to begin
with, he would likely have been able to imitate a tanned Christopher Reeves by
the end of it.
Badly shaken by the sight
and gaining new resolve for my daily walks, I got to work in one piece, with
all my change, sans wardrobe malfunctions.
Later in the day, I was saddened to hear about the death of a loved one
in a local family. I was less saddened
when flippantly asked for a (possibly monetary, maybe nutritional) donation to
ease the burden of grief.
So sorry your sister`s dead. Here`s a $20 – go buy yourself something
pretty. Also perhaps a light brunch.
I can understand a donation
for a close friend should I choose to give it, but to be demanded a gift
for a funeral is a little forward.
But laughter during my
Swahili lessons more than made up for that dark cloud.
Not my laughter, of course.
I said valwa when I
should have said valiwa and my teacher (a young receptionist with a lonstanding fascination for the word buttocks who sits in a shack at our gate all day) lost her bananas. She was laughing so hard I thought I was
going to have to call for a clean up on Aisle Shack. I assumed I`d said something inappropriate (like that one time in South Korea), but no – she was just really amused by my failures.
I try and try to wow
people with my Swahili, but then realise the Pastor’s toddler is at about my
level and just want to throw in the towel – he waddled into his living room, took one
look at me, and said, “Nani? Awo!” [Who? Then an approximation of my name which is pretty good, considering that adults call me anything from Cherie to Shell to Shalom.]
But I was still glad for
memories of that laughter the next morning, when I was trying to draft an email
to my mother wishing her a happy birthday and basically bawling at my
desk. I`m not one for public emotion,
and I don`t often cry over my mother, who is a little bundle of buttery-soft
joy with a large wardrobe, so this psychological meltdown was unexpected. I think as I slowly become both her and my
dad in my old age, it`s fitting that I’m at silent war with myself.
So on the weekend, I organized
my extensive social calendar to make room for more tears (if necessary) between
sleeping and eating – because organization is next to godliness and the Queen
of Sheba had moved to her village and I was blissfully, extravagantly alone.
And then the regular
apartment renter made a surprise visit to pack up her stuff (before having to
move out at the end of the month) and enticed me to an expat party with
promises of pizza.
I need you to imagine
this: A shy nerd in glasses and pyjamas,
busily taking in some of her shirts, being
convinced to go to a party and meet people.
It was like university all
over again, except now I`ve gone through partying and drunkenness and blackouts
and embarrassment and realized it`s not entirely for me. But chronic FOMO coupled with visions of
pizza dancing in my head convinced me – I tied my hair into a bun and changed,
and we showed up early. I recognized
some people I`d met in various inter-organizational meetings, we chatted, and there
was no pizza.
By the end of the night, my
hair was down, there was weed, hard liquor, a DJ, some seniors, awkward dance
moves, goat skewers, no pizza, and I was being chatted up by guys who would
upend their booze after going on an unplanned guilt trip with me.
“Can you come and sit over
there?”
“But what about if we sit
here?” [And not where you can quietly
kill me.]
“Come on – it`s just over
there; I`m not asking you to come to my base.”
“Yes, well. Fine.”
“When I first saw you, I
knew I wanted to see you again.”
“You don`t say. I mean, really, I think it`s the alcohol.
“No!”
“...So... um... What do you think about
Anwar el-Sadat?”`
“Anwar... el... Sadat.”
“Yes, I’ve been reading a
book about him!”
“Oh, you were reading a
book...”
I can imagine that it was
at this point that he realised he`d wasted his drink. But being nothing if not helpful, and still hopeful
of meeting my future soulmate in a yard full of brilliant professionals acting like hormonal tweens, I
soldiered on.
“Or, you know – the
president before... Nasser?”
I was fairly certain he was
Not a Very Nice Man, so I thought I`d hit on the perfect conversational topic. My partner likely wanted to plead a headache,
but it was too late.
“Nasser...”
Thankfully, my friend came
to save us both – snagging one last skewer on the way out while I mourned the
lack of pizza and a sober man in my life.
I know I come across as a
prude, but I don’t mind different lifestyle choices as long as I see a sense of
peace, contentment, or satisfaction. The
trouble is that I rarely find it - the sheer age range of people desperate to
meet and belong with each other, even for a night, was more than a little
sad. From the vivacious young Congolese enjoying a more Western party, to the driven humanitarian
workers from Europe smoking like angry teakettles - all seemed to be trying to drown fears, expectations, and sights of war and corruption in
alcohol and music.
I believe there was the
same desire for belonging among expats in Korea (and, let's be honest, aging singles in Canada), but as most of us met at church, we were mainly into hardcore ice cream and karaoke –
maybe with some beer on the side. I’m
not sure that being middle-aged and heavily into drugs or drinking is my idea
of maximizing potential and work-life balance – but perhaps if my 9 to 5 consisted of
desperate refugees, trauma survivors, and child soldiers? I enjoyed myself for the most part, but I'm too socially awkward for this sort of thing; my real desire (only partially
realised) was to invite them all into a church community because this furious,
channeled desire to be home reminded me why I
prefer to be sewing with God.
One the other hand, there
isn’t really anything to do in the evenings but drink and party – even young
adults at church can’t often afford to go out (and, again, do what?).
The greatest victory from that party was that I met the gregarious owner of a new local grocery store who would later replace a malevolent jar of peanut butter that tried to escape me.
The greatest victory from that party was that I met the gregarious owner of a new local grocery store who would later replace a malevolent jar of peanut butter that tried to escape me.
On the home front, my war
with the house helper continues; after calling me at work on Monday to inform me
I’d left the tap on and locked him out (the former was untrue - the tap leaks –
and the latter was intentional), he began busying himself in the kitchen while
I struggled between gratitude and crankiness because I hadn’t expected to see
him that day.
Deciding against rudeness
as he is actually a very hardworking, efficient soul (despite treating me like
the Pippin to his Gandalf), I thanked him and was on my way back to work when he
quizzically noted, “Someone had left me a note in Swahili last
Friday: ‘I’ll see you on Tuesday!’ Who wrote that?”
I stared at him. I’m fairly sure my eyes bugged out a
little.
I live alone. I’ve left you notes before. You understood that someone wanted you to be here on Tuesday...
“It was me.”
“Oh. It would do to speak Swahili,” he said
somberly.
Working on it.
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