There is a moment – after the power and water have
been out for hours, after you’ve delayed dinner and a bath past your usual
grandmotherly hours – when you’re absently itching a mosquito bite on your
ankle...
That you hate the government so much because it has
kept its bright, hardworking citizens from baths and Wikipedia and they can do
nothing about it. That you can only sit
in the light of your cheap phone and play Tetris on it for so long before the horrible
epiphany – akin to remembering you’ve left something on the stove - that you
used to have some sanity, but now it’s all bubbled over and burned up and you
have a mess to clean up.
It’s around this time that you discover another bite
also in the vicinity of your ankle and you just want to dig your shoulder blades
and heels into the couch, arch up in total rebellion, and scream with the itchy
injustice of it all.
Then you have one of two scenarios. Either the lights (that you’d switched on in
desperate, pathetic hope when the sun began to set) suddenly come on and you
find yourself singing a Gregorian chant in honour of Jesus and Joseph Kabila. Or you take a cold bath in the light of the
only small appliance you haven’t managed to break (well, you did once but
Captain fixed it), throw on socks and a hoodie, try to switch off any lights in
case the power returns, and fall asleep hoping that tomorrow is literally a
brighter (and waterier) day.
All this to the repetitive beat of some party or
church service (I can never tell the difference until Justin Bieber comes on
the mic to apologize for missing more than just my body) that only adds to the
sense of powerless isolation.
Thankfully, I never feel that way during the day, when I am lovingly
solicited by small children asking for food or money, youth who make nasal
noises at me as part of a sterling comedy routine, and men who have a deep
wellspring of interest in the church, English, and me (not necessarily in that
order). Sometimes women say things to me too, but they are rarely agressive, don't tend to follow me, and I've usually smiled, greeted them, or asked them for prices or help first.
A minute into a conversation with an excitable black
man from a neighbouring country, in possession of an Indian accent so strong it
was actually making wince:
“Are you here alone?!”
“...I’m here with my team.”
“Are you married?!”
“Um, no.”
“Why?!!”
“...”
“Why?!!”
“...”
“Do you love your cousin?!”
[This was unexpected, but part of my brain was already
busily formulating a convoluted answer about being an immigrant in Canada and
away from family. Thankfully, the rational
part of my brain held the reins to my mouth.]
“...My... cousin...”
“You love someone and you will go and be with them!!”
“Right, so boyfriend or fiancé – not cousin.”
“Oh really!!”
[The conversation continued as he followed me all the way home
and was only unwillingly ended due to the fact that I was closing my gate in his face, telling him to go
home, and not giving visiting hours.]
“I’m so glad to meet you!! Everyone here is black!!”
The next day, a car containing three soldiers in
camouflage and porting rifles offered to give me a ride. I work next to a military office, so I they
may have innocently been extending a hand of friendship because they’d seen me
in the area.
Regardless, I smiled, thanked them, and chose life
instead.
At work, one of the ladies proposed marriage.
For her brother.
I hope I refused gracefully, with many compliments on
her wonderful family, but I may have just clapped my hands over my ears and
screamed – it’s hard to remember.
So it’s not just guys on the street who have the
temerity to strike up conversations despite my brisk pace and earphones, it’s
also youngun’s! One snowflake at church,
just about to enter university, took me to task for always having to call.
“I want you to call me now!”
Excuse you! I never asked you to call me! In fact, I fervently wish you didn't! That time you called me at work and wouldn't tell me who you were? Yeah - not impressed! I don’t even call my
teammates! I don’t even call my brother!
Another little one who joined me on my walk home – first introducing himself as 17
years old, and finishing up at not yet 16 – asked if I’d date him if he
were un grand garçon (literally a big
boy).
How do you even respond to this?
When I’m fifty and desperate, I may spare a thought
for the apparently lucrative business of gigolos, but as of right now I’d
prefer not to be deported for pedophilia.
He seemed surprised when I said I’d date him if he
were 30 and a good guy. I later worked
out that this was because he’d estimated I was eighteen (I swear I thought he’d
guessed twenty-eight – I’ve been confusing this of late in French in a transparently
Freudian attempt to regain lost time).
As I was enjoying a chat with this little soul (who’d
managed to picked up a few even smaller friends with bread baskets on their
little knobbly heads), we met a more manly Egyptian contingent who knew about me. I’m unsure as to the rumours circulating
about me after that party I was at a few weeks ago, but at this point I guess
all I can hope for is that they’re a lot juicier than the sad truth of my life.
At the time, I was weighed down with four kilograms of
rice, three litres of milk, a jar of peanut butter, and four packs of
chocolate-chocolate chip cookies, so I couldn’t escape. My friendly shopkeeper also engaged me in
conversation (despite the ever-present danger of having to give me a freebie
due to my clumsiness):
“Yeah, I know - you do some Christian thing.”
That’s me – Doing Some Christian Thing (With Mixed
Success) Since 2004.
I’m thankful for generalized kindness, believe me, but
sometimes it can get overwhelming. I
found it difficult enough to have this discussion while he quietly judged my Single
Ladies Care Pack; it’ll be even harder to chat about my Christianity over a bag
of regular overnight with wings and an optional sunroof.
And the interrogation doesn’t end when I get home...
Part II
And the interrogation doesn’t end when I get home...
Part II
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