This weekend was difficult in some ways. Unexpectedly so.
After a relaxing morning spent catching up with my writing, I
had second-hand experience with male chauvinism and, lo, there was much wailing
and gnashing of teeth.
No, I thought hysterically, I’ve just updated my
blog! You can’t give me more material so
soon! Do you have no care or concern for
my wellbeing?!
Though I had been biting my tongue for some time (okay, so I
said some things), events came to a head over the long weekend. I would definitely classify it a major fracas
that involved the surfacing of a deep-seated belief (that women, and only
women, should do housework), a resulting culture war (one party saying that
this belief was cultural and one emphatically disagreeing), and the fallout (a
compromise of sorts, minor psychological abuse in the form of pressure and warnings
to keep the whole thing quiet – citing relationship ties and because it was
‘culture’). I wasn’t here for most of
it, and cannot clarify any further; it was just really important for me to see
this level of conflict over such a minor issue.
God’s laws encourage us to love God and love one another (to
death, as it happens). Indian culture (and apparently some African ones) holds fast to the little-known 11th
commandment on a missing page of the Bible: Thou (this means you, Eve, you silly snake-charmed twit) Shalt
Not Not Serve A Man Hot, Fresh Food In A Timely Manner – Any man worth
his salt has a right to a full, happy belly with minimal to no work. Anything short of this is directly caused by
feminism and indicates the fast-approaching judgement of Christ.
On this law hang all the chauvinists, amen.
This is an issue that drives me insane – we all need to eat
to live, thus we all need to prepare food.
To eat. To live. Further discussion is unnecessary.
(But it continued regardless.)
Then I had to run to a Good Friday service that compounded
my sense of disorientation. The first
song we sang was Celebrate Jesus:
Celebrate Jesus,
celebrate! (x4)
He is risen (x2)
And he reigns
forever more!
I wondered if I’d Rip Van Winkle’d a few days away. I looked around at people dancing and
wondered if this was the Rapture – I’m okay with praising the Trinity forever,
but I’d thought my surroundings might change a little. More comfortable chairs at the very
least. Less dust, definitely.
By the end of the sermon, I could understand the focus on
the resurrection – it is the hope of things to come, and it is the sign that
Jesus had spoken the truth about his ability to save – but it just proved to me
that I would never find myself in the right camp.
At home, I know people who make me want to say, “You do know
he is risen, right? Right? Like, he’s not always being smacked around or
hanging out on the cross or in the tomb.
He has gone ahead of us, as always, and this is our joy and strength!”
Here, I find myself wanting to say, “You do know he died for
our sins, right? Right? Like, he was born, lived a sinless life, and
died on a cross – so that I could call God my Father too. There has to be some sort of humility in that recognition!”
It’s not that I have found the perfect balance, but Advent and
Lent have been great times of getting to know Christ, the power of his
resurrection, and the sharing of his sufferings by becoming like him in his
death – in expectation of the resurrection from the dead (as Paul says). Even the Israelites post-Exodus were always
reminded that they used to be slaves in Egypt.
This clearly wasn’t to make them suffer communal depression, and it speaks against this idea that sorrow is a solely Catholic waste of time gift.
It was to urge the Israelites to be humble about their current station and to do good works (e.g. leave some of the
harvest for the aliens, widows, and orphans). Jesus didn’t sashay or
cha-cha to Lazarus’ tomb or to the cross (though both ended in God's glory) – he wept and prayed as would a man of
sorrows who is acquainted with grief.
I was given the example of a mother dying during childbirth –
it seems rational that the child would be more joyful for his life than he
would mourn for his mother.
I suppose. But I
think it depends on your focus. If the
child wants to think about himself and has no other day to celebrate – of
course he would give thanks for his life.
But if he wants to honour his mother and life the rest of his life in
joy… To me, the resurrection is the
light in which I live my life. So for
the short time before Easter (either just Good Friday or all of Lent), I can approach
the cross with my heart and mind like Jesus – speaking life to people and
laying my sins to rest at the foot of the cross.
In the end, it seemed more a chicken-and-egg issue: Is God more glorified in the fact that Jesus
was raised from the dead, or in the fact that he died for us? It really isn’t a major disconnect – I even shared
a joke on Facebook on Good Friday (I felt the fires of hell for a brief minute)
– but I prefer the quiet reflection of the Anglican Church.
So I took some time by myself with my Bible and thought
about this being my last weekend with my host family. I’ll still see them at church, but their shiny
little baby will no longer come and curl his arm around mine and suck on his
thumb for a few peaceful moments. I will
no longer have a Pastor On Demand. I
will no longer be able to cook with a woman who enjoys laughing at with me. They waved me off with a meal, much love and support, and the cheerful idea that I should offer my hair to start cooking fires in the village as this will help build relationships with my neighbours.
Another Disney story unutterably ruined.
Another Disney story unutterably ruined.
From now on, I will remain (at least for a short while) on
the compound, where dogs howl and/or vomit all night (at least one isn’t in
heat anymore), think about my coming placement, and dream of armed pygmies attacking my knees.
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